She said that it would only be okay if both people agreed with these conditions.

Barry also gave the example that in Christian’s contract, it states that the sub needs to work out and limit the amount of alcohol or drugs they use. “One of the biggest things that scared me in ’50 Shades of Grey’ is that he forces her to go on certain types of birth control,” Barry said when talking about the conditions in Christian’s contract.

By having his submissive sign a contract, which Anastasia never actually signs in the movie or the books, he knows that they will play by his rules and he is in charge. “I don’t think people are going to separate it from education,” Barry said about how women will watch the film and think it is behavior they will want to try, but will not be safe about it.Ĭhristian is a dominant one in the bedroom. In the film she never officially agrees to be his submissive, therefore Christian trying to push her to do things sexually with him is not proper BDSM because it is not consensual.Īccording to members of Stony Brook TNG, until a duo has agreed on what their limits are and what they like or dislike, they are not in a proper BDSM relationship.Īs part of the clubs efforts to inform students about safe sex, they list the phrase “enthusiastic consent” when talking about sexual scripting.Īshley Barry, the vice president of Stony Brook TNG, said that she is bothered by the way the movie presents itself like it is the norm. However, Anastasia never signs the contract. In the movie, Christian gives Anastasia a contract in which he lists the safe words “red” and “yellow” for her to use. They are words that partners both know before they get started that if uttered means that something has to stop.

One of the many things that she does not like about the film is that it fails to illustrate a proper dominant/submissive relationship where safe words are always used and the other is respected.Ĭollege students joke about them all the time, but safe words are a real facet of BDSM and kink relationships. Jordan said that the film should not be watched and imitated.

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